Why rest can feel hard sometimes


The other day, I watched a bird slowly make its way down to the river.

It started high in the treetops, then hopped to a lower branch. And then another. And each time, it paused and looked around. It seemed to make sure everything was safe before moving a little closer to the water.

Eventually, it reached a small pool along the riverbank, settled in, and began splashing around. It got there slowly and on its own terms…little by little, once it felt safe enough to take the next step.

I sat there thinking about how much that applies to a lot of what we do in life…including learning to slow down.

We don't usually go from living in overdrive to spending an entire afternoon unplugged and resting without it feeling like a guilty pleasure.

For many of us, even a few quiet minutes can feel uncomfortable. Our minds start listing everything we should be doing. We reach for our phones without thinking. We worry that something will be missed or fall apart.

Or, it may feel a little bit like a "Danger, Will Robinson" moment from Lost In Space in the 60s.

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So maybe the answer isn't to force ourselves into some big grandiose version of rest. Maybe we start by moving one branch lower.

One slow breath before the next meeting. One cup of coffee without reaching for your phone. One minute sitting quietly in the car before going inside. One song you stop long enough to really hear.

These small moments give us a chance to notice something important: That we can pause, and the world keeps turning. And little by little, we begin to trust that it is safe to slow down.

Maybe one minute eventually becomes five. Maybe five becomes an afternoon. Maybe an afternoon becomes a life with a little more room in it.

But we don't have to begin there. We can begin with one branch and then move to the next one once we feel safe.

Your One Invitation This Week

Choose one small moment to pause. That can be:

  • A breath before a meeting.
  • A cup of coffee without your phone.
  • A quiet minute in the car before you go inside.
  • Or something else entirely!

Then notice what happens when you take that moment to pause. How does your body, mind and spirit feel? Like they exhaled? Or are you still feeling like it's too much or that you don't have time?

If it's the latter ones, keep practicing. Take it one branch at a time.

Sending love and "it's okay to rest for a moment" vibes,

Chris

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PS:
If building more space for rest in your life feels harder than it sounds, you might like what I'm putting together for September. The Rest Experiment is a six-week guided experience where we'll explore what rest actually looks like in real life. Think tiny experiments, everyday rest, and the freedom to discover what truly restores you. More details soon.

PPS: Small moments of rest aren't just great when you are starting out learning to slow down and rest...they are also great for the days when life is hectic and it feels like you don't even have a moment to breathe.

Sundays Unplugged is your weekly reminder to slow down and create space for you. Remember, while your work, your people, and your life matters… so do you.
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