Hey Reader,

I think I hit a nerve this week.

I asked my mastermind group about their relationship with their phones.

What do you love about it? What do you hate—or wish were different?

Boy, did they have a lot to share! And yes, I kind of knew this was a hot topic...but not this hot🔥

Some of it was what you might expect. The scrolling. The distractions. Picking up your phone to do one thing and somehow ending up doing something else entirely.

But there were also things I hadn’t thought about.

For example...the flashlight and calculator. I mean, I use those all the time, and they hadn’t even made it onto my own love list!

Others talked about listening to music, capturing a thought in the Notes app, sharing what they create, and friendships that started online.

But as I listened, something stood out. Sometimes, what people loved and what they wished were different were two sides of the same thing.

They loved being connected to people. But not the feeling that they should always be available.

They loved being able to take photos and capture memories. But not feeling like they should be taking a photo instead of just enjoying the moment.

They loved being able to look something up right away. But not getting pulled into something else once they picked up their phone.

And the conversation went beyond scrolling. People talked about the number of places they have to check for messages. Being so easy to reach. And being able to reach everyone else, too.

One person described it as feeling like there aren’t personal boundaries around time and space anymore.

That part has stayed with me.

Because creating space in our lives is at the core of my work. Less busyness. Less constant doing. More room to think, create, or just be.

And our relationship with our phones is part of that conversation.

Our phones make so much possible. But when we can check, respond, look something up, or fill a free moment anytime, where do we leave a little room for ourselves?

I’m not here to tell you to get rid of your phone. There are things I love about mine, and I’m guessing there are things you love about yours, too.

But we can appreciate what our phones make possible and still want a little more space.

Maybe that’s enjoying a show without scrolling through half of it. Taking a walk without catching up on messages. Or having a time where you don’t need to connect, check, or take anything in.

Not because those things are wrong. But because every free moment doesn’t have to become a chance to catch up, respond, or take in more. You get to leave a little room for yourself, too.

I asked my mastermind group, and now I’d love to ask you...

What’s one thing you love about your relationship with your phone? And what’s one thing you wish were different?

Hit reply and tell me. There’s no right answer here…and no judgment. And you can share as much or as little as you'd like!

Sending love and unplugging vibes, Chris

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​P.S. There’s a reason I’m asking these questions! I’m working on something around our relationship with our phones—not about giving them up, but creating a little more space for ourselves. It’s still taking shape, but I'll share more soon. In the meantime, you are always welcome to share what you’d want to explore.