Last week I got stuck in Florida due to the snowstorm that hit the East Coast. What was supposed to be three days away turned into a week.

If you look at the picture above, that was my view most mornings. I could walk 10 minutes down to the beach or drive down with my friend to sit and watch the sunrise over the water.

Sounds pretty great, right?

And yet when my flight got cancelled on Sunday, I spent hours frantically searching for flights home because I wanted to get home. But…I didn’t really need to be home. My husband was there taking care of the cat. Everything I needed to do for work could be done remotely. The one in-person event I had scheduled got canceled anyway because of the storm.

But there I was, ready to drop $500 - $800 just to get home quickly. I finally found a flight for Wednesday that was only $300. Not terrible, all things considered.

That's when my friend looked at me and said, "You know you could just fly home Thursday night, right? Same airline you took here. Zero dollars extra. A few more days of beach and sunrises."

The math was simple. The choice was obvious. And yet I sat there for while, tying myself in knots, searching and re-searching flights, unable to make the decision to stay.

Finally, I stopped and asked myself: Why do I want to get home so badly when I don't actually need to be there?

I didn't have an answer. I just knew that I was getting in my own way.

And this isn't the first time. ​
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Back in 2016, I signed up for a webinar called "Get Out of Your Own Way." I liked the vibe of the woman leading it, and I knew that I needed help.

At the time, my journal was filled with angry, angsty writing. A lot of it aimed at myself. A lot of self-loathing. A lot of "what's wrong with me that I can't figure this out?"

On the outside, I looked successful. On the inside? Pure turmoil.

I realized I'd gone as far as I could on my own. I needed someone else's perspective. Someone to help me see what I couldn't see.

So I asked for help from the woman leading the webinar…she became my very first coach.

Here's what I've learned in the years since then…

We all get in our own way sometimes. We create problems that don't exist. We manufacture urgency where there is none. We resist the very things that would actually help us.

And we can't always see it ourselves.

Sometimes we need a guide. A coach. A mentor. Someone who can gently point out that we're about to spend $800+ to flee a beach sunrise when we could just... stay a few more days for free.

Someone who can help us stop, breathe, and ask: What do I actually need right now?

If that sounds like something you could use…a guide, a coach, someone to help you step back from the busyness of your work and life, someone to help you create space to be creative, find clarity, rest, or just figure out what you actually want, reach out. Reply to this email and tell me what’s going on or book some time on my calendar and let’s chat.

Sometimes we all need help getting out of our own way.